tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post1161972035328780056..comments2023-09-09T01:02:47.867-07:00Comments on Nutwood Archives: The GrudgeBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05149068921334726430noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-55810637678227749542007-12-07T06:33:00.000-08:002007-12-07T06:33:00.000-08:00Hi Beth....Yes, I remember our chat about that a w...Hi Beth....<br><br>Yes, I remember our chat about that a while back. I believe the phrase I used was "black cauldron of bitterness boiling not so subtly beneath the surface." We've all known people like that in our lives. It's really sad to see people like that, too. My friend Bruce has a very simple but what I think is a very effective saying -- "life is short." Indeed it is -- life is short, too short, to spend wasting time on being bitter about whatever unpleasant things have happened to you in your life. Bruce absolutely makes the best of his life, and he is a fun person to be around because of his attitude And it IS all in your attitude. Life is not always going to be rosy and happy and fun, there are times when it will be tough and challenging. One of the most important things I learned from my father, at the lowest time in my life, was when he said the following to me: "You can either be upset, mad, angry or bitter about the situation, or you can remember the good times, and go on and live your life." I've remembered those words for over 21 years now, and he was 100% right.<br><br>Life is too short.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-92191078947205365772007-12-07T06:35:00.000-08:002007-12-07T06:35:00.000-08:00(part two of previous comment)I saw a customer at ...(part two of previous comment)<br><br>I saw a customer at work yesterday who came in in a wheelchair, and he had both legs amputated. I looked at him, and my first thought thought was, "wow, poor guy, it must be tough to not have your legs." Then I thought, "I am so thankful for my good health." I observed him as he made his way through the line, and he seemed like a very upbeat and positive person. He was chatting with others in line around him, and he was a pleasant person to serve from what I could tell. (I did not wait on him.) Here was a guy who obviously had a serious problem, and one that affected the rest of his life, but he certainly didn't appear to let it get him down. I like that. I like being around people who are like that, too. Life is too short to be around what I refer to as "negative energy." There are too many wonderful things to see and do and be a part of, if you choose. I don't have time or the energy to spend being bitter.<br><br>Life IS too short. Make the most of it.<br><br>Wow, I really got going on that, didn't I? Haha! I mean every word of it, though. It's how I always try to live my life<br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-13181560387992403072007-12-07T13:01:00.000-08:002007-12-07T13:01:00.000-08:00Thanks for the comments, Shane, and you can commen...Thanks for the comments, Shane, and you can comment any ol' time you like! I liked what you wrote, and I agree that it's the only way to live life. Love ya! Oh, and thanks for remembering your great phrase about the "black cauldron of bitterness"! I love that!<br><br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-5910790992601277782007-12-07T13:56:00.000-08:002007-12-07T13:56:00.000-08:00I had a nice note via MySpace from my friend Jim a...I had a nice note via MySpace from my friend Jim at work that I thought I would share (miss you, too, Jimi):<br><br>bethster!<br>hey, I had to write and tease you that your most recent blog about the grudge sounds a little "4 Agreements-ey" Ha! But you are so right. It's amazing how someone who has been at the wrong end of a raw deal will let it fester and "get them" over and over again. We've all been there, but once you understand you're doing it to yourself, it makes you feel a little silly, doesn't it? Like you said, while you're stewing in your venom, the object of your ill feelings has already moved on. By continuing to relive it over and over solves nothing. But it's all a process of growing up and learning. Some people, however, just don't get it. <br>miss you,<br>jimi <br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-10643588471264748512007-12-08T12:22:00.000-08:002007-12-08T12:22:00.000-08:00Dropping by from Friday Blogplugs. It's not n...Dropping by from Friday Blogplugs. It's not new agey....it's actually Biblical. Grudges, unforgiveness, grow inside us like a cancer. They rob and steal joy from lives, always hurting the one who carries it far more than the one they have the grudge against. Great post! - Barbara<br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-11904074070900065232007-12-08T12:33:00.000-08:002007-12-08T12:33:00.000-08:00Thanks for the comment, and thanks for reading, Ba...Thanks for the comment, and thanks for reading, Barbara!<br><br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-77815891157500410932007-12-13T18:11:00.000-08:002007-12-13T18:11:00.000-08:00i am a grudge holder. je me souviens. its not th...i am a grudge holder. je me souviens. its not that i cant let go, but to me letting go means forgiving, forgetting or both. and i am not wired to do either by my maker or my experiences. keep blogging!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com