tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post5236802705499798465..comments2023-09-09T01:02:47.867-07:00Comments on Nutwood Archives: A little reflectionBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05149068921334726430noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-32817193964723094102008-02-01T13:49:00.000-08:002008-02-01T13:49:00.000-08:00I was in a train wreck of a life to be honest...I'...I was in a train wreck of a life to be honest...I've talked about it here and there in my journal. There is a reason I sponsor and have a few women who correspond with me about Domestic Abuse.....No one better to do it, than someone who has lived the horror...The thing is I didn't know life was suppose to be any different either. I didn't know how to not be hit....It had its own dependency wrapped up in it. People look at me now and say I can't believe that was ever you....Because after my last break-up....I was covered with so many bruises and once again had fractured ribs , the works..I finally woke up and said enough....<br><br>For a little over a years span I was on my own. I wouldn't date or trust another man. I needed to heal, to learn I was more than the worth of having to belong to someone in one shape or another. Then I became angry....Doc will tell you our first year together was hell...it was a long road to realize I could love someone and not allow that dependency to come out. Today....today is a good day....I'm teaching and coaching the lessons I learned. This is just another example of what dependency can be , from another pair of eyes....(Hugs) Indigo<br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-5333192086616372292008-02-01T13:57:00.000-08:002008-02-01T13:57:00.000-08:00Indigo...Amen, sister. I admire you greatly for tu...Indigo...Amen, sister. I admire you greatly for turning your bad experiences into helping others deal with similar ordeals. As you've written, how we deal with our past hurts is mostly our own responsibility. Here's to moving forward and not staying mired in the past. <br><br>Big hugs,<br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-88017604790471068392008-02-01T14:01:00.000-08:002008-02-01T14:01:00.000-08:00The first step to any relationship and happiness i...The first step to any relationship and happiness in life is to learn to love yourself. How can one profess to love another without knowing how to love. It's the healthy first step !<br><br>Jimmy<br>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-50275675136074511912008-02-01T14:03:00.000-08:002008-02-01T14:03:00.000-08:00Exactly, Jimmy!BethExactly, Jimmy!<br><br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-75435995503778130082008-02-01T17:31:00.000-08:002008-02-01T17:31:00.000-08:00my mom has always needed a man to complete her. Sh...my mom has always needed a man to complete her. She always put men in front of me.....ending up abandoning me in '83 to move across country. I always said i would never be her......my 1st husband walked out on me and my daughter when i was 21. My daughter was 8 months old at the time. I spent the next year alone.....so scary, esp. at that young age. Then i met my current husband. I think it is a good thing for a woman to be able to live her life alone though i would not wish anyone to be alone as they age.<br>HUGS, lisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-39904266278254852332008-02-01T17:44:00.000-08:002008-02-01T17:44:00.000-08:00I'm sorry you had to go through that, Lisa, but a ...I'm sorry you had to go through that, Lisa, but a quote I love is, "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger." I really do believe that things happen for a reason, and it's up to us to make the best of whatever cards we've been dealt.<br><br>Hugs, <br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-57464134445473201602008-02-01T18:21:00.000-08:002008-02-01T18:21:00.000-08:00Very insightful, on the alone thing. After my div...Very insightful, on the alone thing. After my divorce, I wasn't alone either, and though I have a good marriage now, I should have spent some time getting to know me. I was afraid of being alone, and being lonely. Its tough to look in the mirror and not only not like what you see, be unwilling to change it. We've come a long way, baby!<br>xoxo ~MyraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-76920476862789860062008-02-01T18:34:00.000-08:002008-02-01T18:34:00.000-08:00Myra writes, "We've come a long way, baby!"Indeed ...Myra writes, "We've come a long way, baby!"<br><br>Indeed we have! It's never easy to deal with divorce or breakups, but managing to learn from the experience is invaluable.<br><br>BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098209577865673818.post-7394182779603162132008-02-03T19:21:00.000-08:002008-02-03T19:21:00.000-08:00Great entry and fantastic wisdom.Krissyhttp://jour...Great entry and fantastic wisdom.<br><br>Krissy<br>http://journals.aol.com/fisherkristina/SometimesIThinkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com