Wow, pretty bleak, huh? Yes. Yes, it is, although one's perspective can make a difference in interpretation.
I think the point--at least the way I see it--is that although we all have the potential for such feelings of anger and bitterness inside of us, the true test of character is how we choose to respond to the difficulties that will inevitably befall us during the course of our life. What causes some to forge ahead, leaving past hurts and injuries behind, while others descend into mindless self-pity? Why are some capable of drawing strength and achieving wisdom through adversity, while others wallow in their own misery and seem to rejoice in attempting to drag others down with them? It seems to me to be almost a soap opera mentality, with a wish for constant drama and discord. There are some who feel that life isn't worth living unless there is mischief to be wrought and seeds of discontent to be sown. It's an alien concept to me, and one that I find unpleasant and disturbing.
It may have something to do with upbringing. My parents are children of the Depression, and while they had some very rough times when they were growing up, they are both very upbeat, happy, and optimistic people. I also watched them over the years as they dealt with people, and their honesty, kindness, and friendliness provided a wonderful example of how to behave in dealing with others. In our world, adversity was an opportunity for learning, and for figuring out how to make changes so that we didn't make the same mistakes again...and again...and again.
I'm very grateful to have inherited that attitude from my parents, because it has served me well over the years. While I've been very fortunate in my life, I've had a setback or two. Getting divorced wasn't fun, but I moved on. Other breakups were also not pleasant, but I moved on. I did my best to not carry excess emotional baggage with me, because I think we all know that's not very attractive. (Have you ever gone out with someone who can't stop talking about their ex and how much they hate them? But you still sense a bit of obsession there...isn't it creepy? Check, please!) We all have our issues, but a healthy person will learn to not let those issues loom so large in their life that they obscure the good things. They will understand that dwelling on the past, nurturing the anger and bitterness rather than letting it go, and harboring resentment results in nothing more than their own discontent and misery. Unfortunately, the collateral damage can be profound and longlasting for those around them, although most people eventually end up not wanting to be around this type of person. You can only take so much of that kind of unpleasantry before saying, "Get over it and get a life!"
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